I have had a number of discussions with my dad about social media, its use and privacy, personal and professional benefits etc. I do find it interesting that Dad’s generation versus our generation and our children’s generation hold significantly different views.
Having said that, my dad is now embracing Twitter (@priuscarrier) and has a Linked In account – he certainly see’s the benefits to his business whereas Facebook is not something he likes for privacy reasons. I do understand his concerns and in many ways I am the first to say that Facebook is abused and misused in many cases – I wish people would learn how to lock down their privacy settings for example.
Combine social media with etiquette and there appears to be a whole other set of considerations. As someone that is very open to meeting new colleagues and opportunities through various networking forums, I have enjoyed using the likes of Linked In. I discovered the power of connecting pretty early on and indeed have forged some great business relationships as a result. I’ve been approached out of the blue by people in shared ‘Groups’ such as the Birmingham Post Group etc as well as professionals in my local area, associates etc and see nothing wrong in receiving requests from people. Of course on the off occasion I politely decline a connection (ie ignore a request) – who doesn’t?!
I did recently send a Linked In connection to someone that shares a mutual friendship and is within my local area – indeed she works in PR and was someone I felt I could recommend to my clients at Jeeves Services. In my invitation to connect I referred to our mutual friend (who is also a business associate) in the hope it would explain who I was and that it would be nice to meet up as we live very close. Yesterday I received a reply and one that I had certainly not expected…
“Thanks for your email through Linked In, which I must admit, I was a little surprised to receive ….. I suppose I had assumed that as a first step, out of common courtesy and not least as you use her as a reference point in your email, you would have told her of your planned approach ….. I have to say, if it was me I would be likely to take offence at someone using my name as a way of introducing themselves without my knowledge, whether to a client or colleague? I value my professional reputation….”
So, a word of warning when trying to open up connections – some people clearly do not welcome what most of us do all the time whether electronically or in person.
My experience certainly made me stop and think (and question myself most of yesterday) but I actually stand by what I had done and that I see nothing wrong with a polite invitation. Clearly I have no desire to pursue any connection in this instance (!) but it does beg the question of social media etiquette and expectations! May be some people should come with a warning… “try connecting with me at your peril – I take myself far too seriously”
If you fancy connecting with me and my company, please feel free to drop me a line… a polite one of course!
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